Female Sex Fantasies Exposed: Debonair posted this up, a great insight as to what is percolating under the surface ;)
Posted: Wednesday, October 08, 2008
We've all been there – a gorgeous, scantilly-clad french maid walks into your hotel room and is immediately smitten. She pushes you to the bed and orders you to rip off her clothes. In your dreams, right? Ours too, but we're told it doesn't have to be that way.
In fact, after a long conversation with the girls on the Debonair Sex Panel, we're practically convinced that girls have a more warped imagination than we do. So what exactly are women thinking of when you see them staring off into the distance at a café, stealing a glipse of you walking down the street?
Dirty Talk Sarah, Sales Assistant in Midtown, 23 years old - "Dirty talk is best as a whisper in public – like if we're shopping or in a restaurant sometimes I'll lean in and say what I'm going to do to him when we get home or what I want him to do to me. Seeing how he reacts is fun, but what I really love is building up the anticipation all day. When we get home we practically attack each other we both want it so bad."
Emily, Store Manager in the East Village, 29 years old - "Getting really explicit and erotic is such a release – when you're in the middle of all that physical stimulation, talking dirty sets off fireworks in my head and gets me totally immersed in the moment."
BondageLaura, Paralegal in Midtown, 26 years old - "Being the 'good girl' gets old – sometimes I just want to leave that part of my personality on the floor and let my inner animal out. When he's clawing at me, spanking me, pulling my hair, it just unleashes a different kind of passion between us."
Kim, Graduate Student in Tribeca, 25 years old - "Most guys I've been with expect to be in control when we hit the sack, but that's just not how I like it. There's nothing I like more than to tie him up, tease him, and dominate the night. He's definitely going to get what he wants, but I get the added rush of being in power – is this how men feel all the time? I could get used to it!"
Having a Threesome
Julie, Stage Actress in Hell's Kitchen, 28 years old - "I've had one threesome in my life, where I was the other girl, and it was the most exciting thing I've ever done. I mean, it's such a different kind of sex – limbs everwhere, kissing, groping, having permission to be sexual with another women – it was just primal. I'm not sure I'd do it again because of the fallout afterwards, but that doesn't mean thinking about it doesn't get my juices going."
Angela, Dancer in Greenwich Village, 26 years old - "Oh, threesomes, definitely, and the fact that my boyfriend has a whole mess of sexy, gorgeous friends just makes me think about it more! It's not really about just one way either; sometimes I like the idea of being overwhelmed and filled up, you know, a rough, used experience, but other times it's more about being pampered and lavished over – it's not just guys that like the idea of having more than one person to please them."
Videotape
Kayla, Set Designer in Times Square, 26 years old - "My boyfriend and I have made a few tapes, mostly on vacation actually, and we watch them to get in the mood, and keep it on while we have sex to keep things intense. When you make a tape you're always a bit more theatrical and in the mood to do stuff outside your comfort zone, so I like being able to relive that part of it."
Adrianne, Marketing Manager in Soho, 29 years old - "I used to be pretty apprehesive about being taped, but as long as I get to keep the tape, I'm fine. Just having a camera running while you do it makes things more exciting because it feels like a performance, like there's someone watching you off in another room. [Laughs] When I end up as that person I love seeing what I can do to my partner and for the lonely nights it's so much better than what's on the internet. Know what I mean?"
Role-playing
Jane, Bartender in the East Village, 28 years old - "I've done all kinds of stuff, from teachers and school girls to the requisite french maid and nurse. I know it sounds silly to get into a costume for sex, but it's not just a costume, you know, it's getting to be a whole other person and imagine yourself in a spontaneous encounter. I'd never just jump a guy on the street, but I can imagine I would by playing dress up. [Laughs] And a side benefit is I guess I never have to worry about Halloween!"
AJ, Executive Assistant in Chelsea, 29 years old - "With role-playing you're just re-enacting bad porn films, but you know what? Bad porn films are kinda hot - at least I think so. I actually feel pretty silly doing it, but anything that makes you laugh during sex is usually a good thing. It's easy to get stuck in a rut with that part of the relationship, so being able to do something goofy while you're naked can do wonders to strengthen a relationship."
